Mindset matters

April 1, 2019

In programming your winning mindset, the key to success, and failure, is simply this…we become what we think about. We have a distinct advantage over every other living creature on planet Earth because we have 100 percent control over how we choose to think.

Not just control over how we think, but how we ‘choose’ to think. We can deliberately change it at any point during any given day.

We are bright people, and most of us learned long ago to avoid situations in which we fear. This could have been situations, which we personally experienced, or situations we learned through others’ experiences.

For example, you have had a long relationship; you split up—now your mind creates an association of fear and pain with relationships. There is now a little voice inside your head, which says to you: do not go there again, do not expose yourself, do not step outside your comfort zone, and do not expose yourself to that pain.

In many situations, this makes eminent sense. Our mind is programmed to protect us, and in doing so avoid situations where we might get hurt (physically or emotionally) or where we might lose, fail, or be rejected.

We have a built-in early warning system that alerts our minds to these kinds of situations so that we can avoid them.

But here is the critical part.

Unfortunately, this early warning system often leaks over into other areas of our lives where we are not at true risk. Our goal is to grow and therefore we should program our mindset to engage with life, step outside our comfort zone, take calculated risks, learn to become comfortably uncomfortable, learn to thrive on the adventure of life, and see the unknown as our friend not our foe.

You become what you think about, and it is your choice. Here are six attitude enablers that make up your attitude compass, and together they will give power to your winning mentality:

01 you become what you think about, all day long

Some of the most important conversations you have are the ones inside your head—with yourself. It is critical to pay attention and truly listen to your inner voice and the quality of the internal conversations taking place. The mind is such a powerful force and, no matter what programs you have previously run or what thoughts you have given greatest attention to in the past, the great news is that you can override even years of poor programming with the right focus.

02 failures are just stepping stones to your ultimate success

There is no such thing as a failure. A key part of programming your winning mentality is to reframe each failure as just another step on your glorious path. You change your mindset; you change the game. Success is simply the ability to go from one failure to the next, learning and growing as you go and never losing enthusiasm as you keep the end goal in the front of your mind.

03 dynamic language is everything

The things you say and words you use have equal power to shape your thoughts. Be aware of your choice of words, what they mean, and the impact they can have on yourself and others.

There is a great scene in Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back where Luke Skywalker is being coached in the Jedi skills by Yoda. Luke says he is going to ‘try’ to lift a rock with his mind, only to be rebuked by Yoda for letting himself off the hook before he even starts. “Do or do not. There is no ‘try’,” Yoda says. It is a great metaphor for life. Either you commit and get it done, or you do not commit and do not.

04 who you spend time with is who you become

You cannot always choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Choose wisely. Pick people who want to celebrate your success and whose friendship and support make you want to celebrate theirs as you build your buildings higher and higher. Beware of those who would rather knock the foundations from under your feet, even as they look you in the eye and smile.

05 nothing is as bad as you make it out to be

Use the framing technique or reality checker, aka ‘get a grip’. This technique will help you align your thinking with ‘nothing is as bad as you are making it out to be’. To develop a great winning mentality every day, you have got to overcome the natural human tendency to blow small things out of proportion. Work on having a rational amount of perspective about things.

06 override derailing thoughts with incantations

An incantation or enchantment is a set of words, spoken or unspoken, which are considered by their user to evoke meaning and purpose. Find those words which mean something to you.

Focus on how you choose to dedicate yourself to the way you think, how you choose to dedicate yourself to being positive, how you choose to dedicate yourself to reacting in a positive way.

If your waking hours are consumed with positive, enabling thoughts, ideas, and strategies, what is going to happen? You will become those positive, enabling thoughts.

The things you say and words you use have equal power to shape your thoughts. Be aware of your choice of words, what they mean, and the impact they can have on yourself and others. You get action when you make a simple change from ‘I should’ to ‘I must.’

A winning mentality is not only critical to your success, it is entirely yours to choose. If you are not yet practising a winning mentality every day by conscious, deliberate choice, start now. It is not an overstatement to suggest that it can literally change everything!